Heal Yourself Happy

Heal Yourself Happy

Attending the Heal Yourself Happy workshop is highly recommended if you are challenged with a highly pressurized lifestyle. Having so many commitments that require a constant juggle has us often feeling inadequate or at the very least frustrated. There are all kinds of reasons as to why we become overwhelmed with our overloaded schedule which could simply be due to a matter of not giving ourselves permission to relax for that invaluable half hour a day or even allow ourselves time to engage in a favourite pastime. In doing so, we would recharge ourselves, re-group, allow our soul sing within but instead we so often feel denial is a trait to be admired and pursued.

Attending the workshop will have you realize the range of emotions that surface on a regular basis and how we can have the same unhappy feelings being experienced day in, day out. Yet, it is totally unnecessary. For we are only a workshop away from finding our way forward to balancing these emotions to feel more positive and in control of our lives.

We can do this quite simply and effectively by matching the unbalanced emotion, to any one of the 38 Bach flower essences, that help balance the negative emotion into a positive one. The Bach flower essences are natural, organic and totally safe, which makes the remedies/essences perfect for babies and children. So, when your child becomes noticeably nervous and shy amongst people you would look toward using MIMULUS, when a child is given to more tantrums than usually CHERRY PLUM would be most effective in creating a calmer child dispensing with the distressing explosive outbursts that can so easily overwhelm them. Taking these drops in drinks makes the healing process so easy and convenient for all to establish.

When we as parents, employees, partners, have deadlines that are difficult to meet we place ourselves under a lot of stress which if allowed to continue may result in ill health. This stress is the conflict within us that manifests as negative emotions not only affecting us directly but adversely affecting those around us. Being able to achieve these deadlines within the comfort of knowing that our sense of self- worth, self-accomplishment and personal pride remain intact, our sense of satisfaction and happiness increases. Our perception of being more efficient and effective delivers us a further sense that all is good in our lives and that we are better manage the ebb and flow of life.

How much better will life be when we learn to manage all our fears that otherwise restrict and limit us into a life that is not of our automatic choosing. How freeing is it to just do as we plan without an incumbent emotion holding us back. For these reasons alone, it is important we do not let anything tangible stand in our way preventing us achieve this life’s purpose. It is important we do not shy away from showing our natural talents and skills for they serve a purpose in improving the lives of others around us. As a society, we need to feel less fearful and more courageous and joyous in all we do and raise the level of accomplishment, fulfilment and joy for all to benefit. It is important, therefore that we access as much knowledge as is available and claim the life we deserve to have and experience.

So, let us all heal ourselves happy by attending the Heal Yourself Happy workshop. Here you will increase your awareness of how you think, how your thoughts form your emotions, how your emotions affect your mood and in turn your health. You will learn the impact of how powerful your thoughts are and indeed how they affect your mood and health. Combining the Bach flower essences with the right kind of self-talk makes for a winning partnership that will provide you with the perfect set of tools to self-treat / self-heal ourselves for a glorious life.

As though this was not enough, you will learn how laughter, that free, cheaply available resource, can also have profound effects on your health. There is so much research available to support this statement. But curiously the simplest element of laughter that is so healthful is the element of playfulness. Children teach us how to play, for in normal circumstances they know how to be happy and healthy. When they laugh, their whole-body laughs, as every cell in their body is joyous. This will be addressed and acknowledged amongst many other features in the workshop to help us all bring that joy into our lives so easily.

For further information contact Liz on 07859 920107 or liz@minds-on-high.co.uk

How to get people to respect me

How to get people to respect me

“Respect yourself and others will respect you.”
Confucius, 551 BC-479 BC

“You will never gain anyone’s approval by begging for it. When you stand confident in your own worth, respect follows.”
 Mandy Hale, The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass

Much as these two quotes suggest, to gain respect from others, it is essential that you respect yourself first, that you value yourself, know who you are, through the concept of loving yourself.It is essential that insecurities, inadequacies, self doubt are all banished and replaced with a sense of self worth and indeed a deep sense of self respect with a healthy level of self-love.

 

When we are lacking in that sense of self love, by default we tend to de-value ourselves. We so easily lose the full sense of who we are. When we are lost in this way, we aren’t sure of our own values or moral code, not sure of what we like or dislike, not sure of what action to take in given situations, always feeling we need to check in with others to be sure we are acting or thinking in a way that is acceptable to others. It becomes important to be agreeable with the majority or if we are more extrovert by nature we take to rebelling against authority, a cry to be noticed by those that count. As an introvert, we withdraw int ourselves. To stand out for the wrong reasons, would be so humiliating and humiliation is a familiar emotion that revisits our psyche far too often for comfort.

 

In turn, as a form of self-preservation we may take to adopting aggressive behaviour toward others. This behaviour has us believing others are wrong, needing admonishment as we insist on ‘being right’ in our attempt of ‘being in control’. We may also have lost faith and trust in others, so any kindness shown is viewed with suspicion. We may even suspect others are trying to take advantage of us with some hidden agenda. We may also misunderstand their good intentions, convincing ourselves that they are scheming against us and risk arousing  angy responses towards them.

 

All these negative emotions can arise from being exposed to an environment that was very much lacking in love. This love was so much needed in those vital early years of our lives where we are creating our own identity, understanding life’s rules and how we fit in our society as an individual. In fact this quest often continues into adulthood. If we are continually deprived of love, in an environment of aggression displayed by those around us, not only do we tend to copy what we see by default, but we also view ourselves in a lowly way further reinforcing that we are unlovable, surrender to self-denegration with a resulting poor self-image.

 

We can so easily come to believe we are undeserving of a good life and perpetuate the misery we have repeatedly been exposed to, as our norm. If we are fortunate, we will have exposure to positive role models around us to inspire us, but in our state of inadequacy, we can so easily adopt a compensationary ‘perfectionist’ approach in all we do which can bring ongoing conflict within ourselves and prolonged undue stress. Sabotaging our own new plans or projects before completion stunts our progress. This apparent self destruct button can manifest as jeolousy and bitterness towards others’ success. A strong sense of injustice can so easily cloud our view of others who seem to glide smoothly towards achievement whilst we struggle through a series of challenges.

Despite these wretched attempts to move forward, we need do take solace that there is a solution and a way forward toward changing our lives for the better. We need to change this disharmony within us which has become so out of kilter with our true selves it creates devastating unhappiness.

 

A solution to all these challenges does exist, we can move forward toward a new eutopia of success, security, emotional stability and compelling achievement. We learn to embrace rather than fear it and relate positively to others where our talents are recognised and nurtured further with supportive caring people.  So how do we achieve this? How can we leap from the depths of despair to the heights of happiness, success and joy.  We do this, by first understanding the mechanics of our own building blocks that make us human and how each individual human cell responds to energy fields and then use this knowledge to move ourselves forward to joy and success.

 

If we are to understand that every cell in our body has it’s own vibration or harmonic frequency enabling it to function at it’s optimum. Then we will acknowledge how this frequency can be so easily disturbed by pollutants. A primary everyday pollutant is the prolonged exposure to negative energy arising from negative thoughts, behaviour and events.  Recurring and prolonged exposure to such a negative energy field will create great disturbance to the cell’s vibration and harmonic frequency so the electrons, protons and neutrons and other minor particles behave erratically and deletariously, resulting in cell disharmony, eventual cell breakdown, cell malfunction and over time inevitable physical and mental illness.

 

Conversely when we are surrounded by the energy of loving thoughts and nurturing behaviour, we are radiating ourselves with large doses of positive energy, enhancing the integrity of each cell to function at it’s best and optimum good health. Multiplying all these cells into the complex human beings that we are, radiation of positive energy establishes balance and perfect harmonic frequency forming a state of wholesome well-being and health, In this positive state we are more likely to enjoy better sleep quality, hormonal balance, and improved health of all body systems so that physical, emotional and mental health are achieved to have us realize our full potential and in the main, make us joyously happy.

 

In recognising that immersing ourselves in a positive energy field to counter vibrations that are a negative and stressful onslaught to the body, it is absolutely essential we know how best to achieve this.  A mode that is so easy and accessible in re-calibrating ourselves toward greater self worth and greater self respect is the use of Bach Flower Therapy.

 

Bach Flower Therapy is the process of selecting any one of the 38 natural plant remedies to balance any of the 38  emotions that are out of balance . This is a form of energetic medicine. In tackling emotions bereft of self-worth, self-respect, they need to comes from a stance ofhealthy self-love or acceptance. These emotional states are composed of layers of different emotions that need to be in place and so a number of Bach Flower remedies will be needed to achieve this great sense of self worth and respect that was with us at birth.

 

Let us just look for a moment at the emotions we need to balance. To feel deserving , we take Pine, to feel certain with our own decision making, we take cerato, to feel emotionally stable from mood swings we take Scleranthus. To feel motivated we take Hornbeam, to bounce back from setbacks we take Gentian and if our mood has become a little too low for comfort we take Gorse especially if we give up on options that can help us.  To rid ourselves of spite and jealousy we take Holly. To recover from shocking news we take Star of Bethlehem, To regain  a sense of control where we fear we have uncontrollable urges,we may take Cherry Plum. Feeling mentally and physically exhausted would indicate taking Olive.

 

We have named just a few emotions that get in the way of us feeling positive about ourselves and Bach flower remedies enable the individual cells that have become diseased to restore the natural harmonic of each cell to full integrity and so become healed.

 

Bach Flower remedies are a natural organic vibrational form of  energetic medicine harvested from the ‘soul’ energy of specifice plants with no known side effects, which, with it’s vibrational energy, the bach remedy counters the existing unbalanced emotions that were affected by negative energy fields. Slowly, over a three week period of taking the appropriate remedy drops orally via a pipette or in any drink, four times a day, you will notice a gentle yet powerful change within you.   On matching mood to remedy, you will become more accepting of yourself, you will slowly come to start respecting yourself as you start to connect with your own loving self. You begin to know your own mind, your own worth. You will begin to recognise that being caring and respectful of others begins to flow naturally to you, and in turn you take to peace making and more likely to facilitate agreeable outcomes. Your increased confidence with an increased sense of conviction encourages you to take and make appropriate actions to support your new ways of thinking and believing.  You begin to appreciate others more positively and become more trusting in all your relationships. You begin to believe in yourself. Life starts to work for you. People begin to respect you as indeed you are respectful of them in return.

 

In the process of taking Bach Flower remedies, you are encouraged to make positive affirmations such as  ‘I love myself’ or ‘I value myself’ ( Crab Apple & Pine) ‘I enjoy my newfound confidence, I am capable’ (Larch) ‘I embrace change’  (Walnut) at least 5 times a day and combine this with the visualization of seeing yourself surrounded by loving people and feeling totally cherished.  The more vivid the visualization the more real and compelling it will feel for greater impact so use your imagination well. The important thing to realize is that whatever negative statement we make about ourselves, we need to turn it into the opposite,  a positive statement to ensure we radiate a positive energy field around us. Affirmations and Bach flower remedies are the perfect partnership whereby they enhance each other perfectly.

Taking 4 drops 4 times a day, for your selection of remedies, first thing in the morning, last thing at night and twice in between will help restore the correct balance and show improvement over a three week period. Do take note that if you have felt unbalanced for some time you are likely to need to repeat the 3 week cycle a few times.

 

Let us remind ourselves of Mandy Hale’s saying “You will never gain anyone’s approval by begging for it. When you stand confident in your own worth, respect follows.” This punctuates the relevance of working on our own emotions so we feel solid within ourselves. Not only do we gain confidence and conviction in our own honesty of who we are but we radiate out those individual qualities otherwise known as Charisma. It is then that we attract and gain  respect from others.
For further support please contact me,

Liz on 07859  920107 or email me on liz@minds-on-high.co.uk

 

 


What Bach flower for anxiety

‘What Bach flower for anxiety’ is a question that commands some deliberation and discussion. Anxiety can arise from a number of situations and so we need to establish whether the anxiety is personality based or specific to a set of circumstances. True to say, Dr Bach would describe individuals pertaining to being ‘anxiety types’ as presenting with a profile of timidity, shyness, hypersensitivity and being generally fearful of the world around them. They are quiet, may have phobias and do not readily share their fears with others. If you recognise most of these traits in yourself then the Bach flower remedy ‘Mimulus’ is the remedy to balance this anxiety which will help you develop more courage and free you toward living a fuller rewarding and less anxiety ridden life.

This said, we can be undergoing an anxious episode without actually fitting the profile of the Mimulus personality but taking the Bach flower remedy ‘Mimulus’ would be wholly appropriate to balance and calm our anxious state.

In turn another unbalanced emotion can create sleepless nights when the anxiety of feeling overwhelmed by work commitments or life demands, leaves us unable to cope with deadlines which can so easily take us over. This situation commands taking the Bach flower remedy ‘Elm’. This stressful anxious state will return us back to our previously capable selves where our temporary loss of confidence is smoothly restored.

Feeling anxious for other people’s safety particularly when they are close to us, is perfectly natural, however if this anxiety takes on such a level of intensity that we become extremely worried then taking the Bach flower remedy ‘Red Chestnut’ will help relieve us.

‘Aspen’ Bach flower remedy is taken when we become anxious but we just don’t know why, unlike the Mimulus state whereby we recognise the things or situation that is causing our anxiety.

Finally, I need to mention the stress buster of a Bach flower remedy cocktail known as ‘Rescue Remedy’ This remedy comprises of five remedies. Cherry Plum, Rock Rose, Star of Bethlehem. Clematis and Impatiens. This remedy is taken when we feel so stressed by a situation that it becomes all consuming. So extreme nerves arising from an imminent interview, driving test, exam, dental appointment etc might induce a state that can be effectively relieved by taking this remedy. The characteristics of Cherry Plum helps balance the emotion where we feel we are losing control akin to a volcano about to erupt. We take Rock Rose when we feel absolute terror and about to or having a panic attack. Clematis is for when we go into a dream-like state when under a lot of stress while Impatiens is for those who become very pushy with impatience urgently hurrying themselves and others along. Star of Bethlehem helps us combat being in a state of shock. When we are in a state of high emotional distress ‘Rescue remedy’ recognises all the emotions that can easily come into play and attenuates all those feelings to provide peace of mind and have us feel those situations that previously stressed us, now become manageable and achievable.

Do be aware of the temptation to take Rescue Remedy for any event and dismissing the effectiveness of remedies mentioned earlier, such as ‘Mimulus’ and ‘Elm’. However, do take complete solace in knowing that should we take the wrong remedy, the worst that will happen is the specific emotion we wish to treat will be totally unaffected. The remedies are pure and have no known side effects, are totally safe to be taken alongside conventional medication. We cannot overdose on Bach flower remedies. Matching the right remedy for the emotion being expressed will balance us toward anxiety free harmony.

It is possible to take more than one remedy, in fact we can take up to seven remedies at one time. 2 drops of each remedy are introduced into a 30ml bottle of spring water. Four drops of this mixture (as it is a cocktail of several remedies) is taken four times a day over a three week period. The drops may be taken directly in the mouth but can also be taken in any hot or cold drink, water or soup.

Should you be taking a single remedy, 2 drops can be taken directly from the stock bottle or two drops from the stock bottle are put into a 30ml bottle of spring water whereby 2 drops are taken ( as it is a single remedy) four times a day over a 3 week period.

So, the question ‘What Bach Flower for anxiety’ requires the questioner to reflect a little on their anxiety state and match the specific concern with the appropriate remedy to ensure total relief and peace of mind

Natural Alternatives to Paracetamol – disposing the anger

Pain killers that are natural, effective, non invasive without side effects can be produced by our own bodies if we follow a natural process open to us all.

So, in recognising you are continually plagued by chronic pain in this joint or another or perhaps you may suffer with aches from time to time. Either way, the chances are, that your body is feeding back to you that you are expressing anger and letting you know you need to release it. It is not unusual to have these aches and pains accompanied with periods of sheer exhaustion as we try to battle through our restricted movement.

 

Firstly we need to identify who and what we are angry at. It can so easily be a loved one that angers us. We can love this person dearly but at the same time they may have certain habits that we find extremely irritating. Rather than deal with them at the time, we instead feel it easier to just bear this frustration and ignore it by squashing that emotion deep down into our psyche. Months and even years of swallowing those irritating and angry moments take their toll in our bodies. Further damage is created by taking strong pain killers that also impact on healthy tissue altering their bio chemical balance and cell structure. We then continue to become exasperated when, our own GPS, Consultants and Specialists fail to remove our pain for us, after all, they are the experts aren’t they! At this point we need to recognise our own position in this scenario. Our bodies are screaming out for us to address those emotions that are at the end of the day are a form of energy. This energy form has its own atomic structure sending out vibrational energy that is interfering with the normal healthy vibration of your otherwise healthy body cells. So our painfully ailing body cells are crying out for you to externalise this angry feeling and free up your body of this internal pollutant. Your anger may have arisen from a set of frustrating circumstances, in which case, it is helpful to think back to when the pain started, then think what happened some weeks earlier, It may be people you had almost forgotten about linked with the situation. Now you are closer to finding the ad source of your anger and it could involve several people at any one time. Either way release work is imperative. We can do it by the following methods.

 

Writing a letter to the offending person stating why you are angry. However, this letter is not sent, but screwed up at the session end, jumped on and finally set alight safely outdoors. This may possible need to be repeated several times over several days.

 

Putting together an effigy from plasticine or playdough of the person that has angered you. You can pull off the arms, legs, head, whilst shouting out why they made you angry. Then of course let it go and hold no further malice toward this person.

 

Ripping newspapers with gusto is also an excellent form of externalizing anger whilst having the offending person in mind. Do this until you are totally spent with exhaustion.

 

Running off the anger to the point of exhaustion works well for many athletic types.

 

Punching pillows until you feel you have nothing left inside of you is also a good externalising option.

 

After the externalising process has been effected, it is now time to forgive. This does not mean you condone what was done to you but that you are no longer letting that person or situation to continue having any power over you. You recognise that the person did not know any better at that time and you are going to free yourself up for ever of any emotional attachment. If you can shrink that person to being a foolish child that has no true understanding of what they did, it will be easier to let go and forgive, because the individual did not behave to their chronological age but to the emotional age of an immature youngster. We set them free and so we set ourselves free. We forgive them.

Now feeling free, send love, wishing them well. In doing this you are following the principle of what goes round comes round, and thereby attracting ‘good’ into your life and so improving your overall well-being whilst dispensing with all that pain. Congratulate yourself for recruiting your endogenous natural pain killers by releasing your anger and engaging in forgiveness. Now go enjoy your pain free life with renewed vigour!

Beauty, Health and Life… Sustained and Nurtured by Words and Thoughts

Dr Masuru Emoto (A scientist), is known for discovering how water responds to the spoken, sung and written word. If the words are positive the frozen water will form symmetrically shaped crystals that look quite spectacular. As you might expect he found that if the water was exposed to negative words, the frozen water will form ugly shapes and if a crystal shape did appear, it was inclined to be very small and asymmetrical. As our bodies are 70% water it is easy to correlate the crystal phenomena to how we function when exposed to negative or positive messages.

Further tests using cooked rice created interesting results. One jar of rice was totally ignored, another was called ‘you fool’ and the third jar of rice was told ‘ I thank you’ On repeating these same interactions regularly each day, the jar of rice that had been ignored turned black, the jar of rice that was called ‘you fool’ turned brown whilst the jar of rice that was told ‘I thank you’ started to turn yellow. This experiment has been repeated my many others with exactly the same results.

Imagine what we are doing to ourselves if we use lots of self talk that is negative. Most of the time we are unaware of our thoughts as we tend to flow on automatic. Deepak Chopra, a qualified doctor and author of the metaphysical, a specialist in the field of alternative medicine, states that we have approximately 90,000 thoughts a day. Over 70.000 of these thoughts are the same thoughts we had yesterday, as we are having today and will have tomorrow. So, it is important that we start to increase our awareness about what we are thinking and what we are feeling if we are to maintain optimum health.

So, if we catch ourselves thinking something negative, stop it immediately with a positive image of something that makes you go soft at the knees,. For some it might be thoughts of soft fluffy kittens, for others a cute small, nephew, niece or baby. Maybe an exotic holiday scene or a favoured video clip does it for you. Whatever it is, place this image firmly in your mind. It will negate the negative thoughts, as you can only have one thought in your mind at a time, so ensure it is a positive one. Now make a positive affirmation or statement, so for instance, if you were thinking earlier that you are rubbish at tidying up feeling down by a messy room, tell yourself ‘I am good at clearing up and enjoy it’ Put on some music and dance to it as you get on task. Treat yourself for completing the task, making sure you associate positive actions with the task and turning it into a positive experience. Go to the mirror so you see and hear yourself say ‘Well done, what a fantastic job, the room is so tidy and lovely’.

The positive vibrations and actions will make you feel good and boost your sense of well being and your immune system. This same process can be applied to any situation that might feel initially overwhelming. In fact, use this process in reversing a negative thought you are holding of yourself. Repeat this process regularly and you will begin to believe in your own worth more and more. This will add sparkle to your being, and make you very attractive for others to be with.

We all know instinctively that to obtain the best results from people, we need to be optimistic of their worth and supportive of their efforts, so why would we do anything less for ourselves? Interestingly our culture has us place our energies in others but not in ourselves. This is a form of conditioning from which we need to break free. Promise yourself today that you will be realistically positive about your own worth, that you will support yourself well when you are less than perfect, using language that is positive, appreciative and encouraging. Now just watch your life take off as you grow into the person you were always meant to be and let every droplet of your being crystallize into something quite amazing.

To remain positive in any set back take the Bach Flower Remedy ‘Gentian’ . If you are inclined to think and feel everything is pointless – give yourself a fresh outlook with ‘Gorse’ If you find it hard to be positive because you tend to be fearful then take ‘Mimulus’.

For Sheer Relaxation, Simplicity is the Key

Most of us are aware that the top sport professionals are well supported in their game, with a team of specialists. Mind Gurus or Mind Coaches count amongst them. Most of us are also aware of the profound impact our minds have on our ability to succeed in any task or venture. Understandably such support from Mind coaches can be prohibitive in terms of cost and possibly time, so how can we obtain the similar benefits for our sporting game that are both affordable yet effective?

 

The simplest way to achieve total mental control is through the process of regularly practicing relaxation techniques by focusing on your breathing. This alone, may pose a challenge for many as ‘inner mind’ chatter can so easily disrupt the process. To avoid your ‘jumping thoughts’ taking over the relaxation session, it may help to consciously take yourself through a form of guided imagery whilst you relax into your breathing. (Sitting in an upright position)

 

An example of this is to imagine a globe of golden light above your head. This ball of light is surrounded by a soft mist. Breathe in, slowly and deeply into your abdomen, and then very slowly exhale. On your third intake of breath, envisage the golden mist of calming light entering your nostrils, swirling around your head and into your neck. In doing so your jaw is loose and relaxed.

 

On your next intake of breath the golden light sends waves of relaxation down to your arms and finger-tips, returns back up your arms to flow across your chest and down towards your hips. You now feel heavy but wonderfully relaxed as you feel your pelvis sink into the sofa. As the golden light continues along your thighs and swirls around your knees, you feel every cell of your body is refreshingly embraced with peace, calm and health. This wonderful golden flow of relaxation now gently works it way down to your calves, your ankles and then your toes. Your whole body is now surrounded by the golden mist and continues to be bathed by this wonderfully energizing yet calming source. You feel good, you feel energized yet you are totally calm and in control of your emotions. Now open your eyes, wriggles your fingers and return to your fully wakeful state.

 

By practicing this technique regularly you will be better able to tap into the state of a calm with a focused mind at will, to engage a positive outlook.

Now visualize yourself playing each hole of your game of golf, or each shot of tennis or lifting weights in the gym. This technique is also effective for practising other skills such as giving a talk or presentations. Know, hat when you visualize and play through a video in your mind your body cells are stimulated and fired up as though you were physically doing it. In this way your brain cells and muscle cells are primed and prepared to produce the same results when called upon during an actual game of sport or presentation to an audience.

 

If you find yourself very tense consider taking the Bach Flower Remedy ‘ Vervain’. If you find yourself snatching at your game or hurrying others along, take ‘Impatiens’, whilst ‘Scleranthus’ helps you balance scattered thinking and jumping thoughts.

You Should: It’s Time to Stop

We learn all our values and opinions on a range of topics, such as religion, gender, money, work, sex, leisure etc by the age of 5. That’s because as children we absorb all the opinions and thoughts of those around us, as we are growing up. We buy into the culture we are born into, believing it to be perfectly normal and grow up with the ideals of that culture. It is only when we are older that we begin to question some of these values but more often than not we just accept them. We very often accept them because we don’t want to rock the boat as it were. We feel it important to comply and be grateful to those who have nurtured us with these values until…. these same values that created a code of safety and predictability when we were young can begin to cause strife as we discover who we are becoming in early adulthood..

 

If we were brought up believing heterosexuality is the absolute norm, then we might find the thought of homosexuality very uncomfortable, so if we have feelings for the same gender we may begin to feel incredibly guilty, because we should only maintain heterosexual relationships. We comply with the rules our society or culture imposes, by denying ourselves of same gender love, enchaining ourselves to a life of absolute misery and emotional deprivation whilst suppressing our feelings of intense guilt.

 

Our family might tell us we should be academic when we know so deeply that we want to become an Athlete. We might be told by others that we should loose weight, when we are quite happy being our current size. We might be told we should be tidier, for no will tolerate our relaxed living style. And so the examples go on, so we risk ‘shoulding’ on ourselves.

 

So lets start removing the word ‘should’ from our English language as it makes us out to be wrong. This approach of ‘shoulding’ on ourselves can so easily leave us with a demoralizing sense of failure, and feeling inadequate. As a result we may become hard on ourselves. This in turn can create resistance and inner tension, so rather than giving ourselves a hard time and becoming despondent about ourselves, lets begin to recognize that instead, we have in our hands a wonderfully golden opportunity. The opportunity to identify and change that which makes us feel so unhappy and begin to shed someone else’s values for our very own. It is important we become true to ourselves..

Lets start using the word ‘could’ instead. So,’ I could be academic, but I don’t want to as I have little interest in pouring over books as a career choice and I absolutely love athletics’..’ I could loose weight but I prefer not to as I enjoy maintaining my energy levels at this weight to keep up with all the activities that I enjoy’, ‘I could be tidier but actually much rather enjoy doing other things that excite me and my charity work’.

 

By using the word ‘could’ to replace the word ‘should’ we begin to liberate ourselves, leaving us free to express ourselves as our nature intended. Everyone of us has a range of unique talents to nurture, explore and develop and so enriching this wonderful planet with a greater diversity of talent, skills and expertise- if only we allow ourselves!

If you find yourself becoming very disciplined and principled, following a strict programme because you feel you should, whilst also forfeiting opportunities to enjoy yourself then take the Bach Flower Remedy ‘Rock Water’ which will help you relax, balancing discipline with times for fun to have a more fulfilling lifestyle.

Always Troubled By Money Problems?

It does seem that life is a costly business: no sooner the money is in your bank or in your pocket, it just seems to exasperatingly disappear before you reach the end of the month. Again and again. So why is it that your friends earn the same as you, play the same as you and yet they have more of it to spend on holidays, etc?

It is very likely down to your ‘money consciousness’. So how do we resolve this situation for the better?

Firstly, we need to look at your attitude towards money and what beliefs you have around the subject. What messages did you grow up with? For instance if you heard ‘Money doesn’t grow on trees’ The likes of us will always be poor’ You really have to struggle if you want to make decent money’ ‘Money is the root of all evil’ then its likely these kind of comments are still echoing in your mind reinforcing your negative beliefs around money. What you believe and feel, is being mirrored out to you.

Firstly money isn’t evil, it is just a currency of your personal worth. So, (a) start valuing yourself more and (b) recognise that money has the ability to lift desperate people out of despair as many charities will show. Money like most things can be used for absolute good or of course misused and abused by those with low integrity.

To improve your money consciousness and self value, you need to change your beliefs so you hear yourself saying’ I am a money magnet’, ‘I am naturally prosperous and attract a comfortable life’. I earn enough to pay all my bills easily and more besides’. We need you to create as much conviction with the new beliefs as you already hold with your old ones, but of course, you need to eradicate the old ones altogether. So visualize yourself laughing with joy as you open cupboards packed with money, see yourself enjoying that Rolex watch you have always wanted, see yourself enjoying your favourite hobbies, jet-skiing, surfing, flying a plane, travelling the world, driving your favourite sports car. The images are endless. Next you need to practice these everyday alongside the feelings of knowing you are prosperous every single day, several times a day. You need to transform the thought of prosperity into a feeling of knowing you are prosperous so you just know deep down in your heart with total conviction that prosperity is now your reality.

Just know that, if you expect to run out of money, somehow you will, but if you expect to have plenty then plenty is what you will have, but there is still one vital ingredient required in this plan for positive money consciousness to work. This ingredient is the “Power of Gratefulness”.

So beyond thinking and feeling yourself prosperous, you need to be grateful for every single thing you have. Find five things to be grateful for each day. Simple things like having a roof over your head, having friends to talk to, having running water, having transport to get you to work, having your health, etc. The law of attraction works really well here. You will find the majority of wealthy people practice this process naturally in their lives/have a very strong sense of positive money consciousness and self value. They know what goes round comes round!

Practice these thoughts, feelings and declarations of gratefulness every day and see your life turn round in the next three weeks with increased opportunities.

To help you stay positive particularly if you are given to giving up after setbacks, take the Bach Flower remedy ‘Gentian’ and possibly ‘Mimulus’ if you have a real fear about losing money, and of course ‘Pine’ to feel deserving of a good life. Good Luck!